That’s how a good man sits in an interview in another state and never once thinks about his wife’s business.
Not cruelty. Just a habit we both built, one quiet accommodation at a time, over eleven years.
What I’d Tell Anybody
If somebody you love comes to you with a finished plan — a job, a move, a house, a decision about your own life that you’re being handed rather than asked about —
the issue is almost never the plan.
Oregon was a good plan. I live here. I like it.
The issue is that you weren’t in the room, and being told about a decision is not the same thing as making one.
And here’s the harder half, the one I had to face standing on a sidewalk in a city I was determined to hate.
You have to be willing to actually say what you want. Out loud. With numbers and terms and a date on it.
