And that landed somewhere real. I want to be honest about that.
But it wasn’t enough.
“No”
“What I saw was a husband who had already chosen a state, a job, and a start date without me in any of it.”
He looked at the desk.
“Stop treating Olive’s stability and my business like details that can be solved after the main decision has been made. They are the decision.”
His eyes stayed down.
“And don’t ask me to move yet.”
“Chelsea — “
“I’m not refusing Oregon. I’m refusing to be carried into it.”
A Few Days Later
He asked if I’d fly out there with him.
I said no.
Then, two days after that, I changed my mind — for me, not for him, which is a distinction I need to make clearly because it’s the entire point.
“I’ll go. But I’m going to decide what this move would cost us. Not just what it could fix.”
Oregon Annoyed Me
