My mother-in-law told me to get up at 4 a.m. to cook Thanksgiving dinner for her 30 guests. My husband added, “This time, remember to make everything really perfect!” I smiled and replied, “Of course.” At 3 a.m., I took my suitcase to the airport. – usnews 0/2

I sat across from her in the chair Hudson always said was too formal for everyday use but had always been my favorite spot in the room.

“I imagine it was very difficult,” I said calmly.

She seemed taken aback by my tone, which was neither defensive nor apologetic.

“Difficult? It was a disaster, Isabella. A complete disaster. The Sanders are telling everyone at the country club that we can’t be trusted to host a proper dinner party. Cousin Cynthia’s new boyfriend thinks our entire family is dysfunctional. Uncle Raymond spent four hours trying to cook turkeys he had no idea how to prepare.”