So Mom moved into the first-floor guest room. It was directly across from the bathroom, which mattered because chemotherapy made stairs and long walks difficult. The room also had a window overlooking our backyard garden, which Mom loved.
She arrived with one suitcase and a bag of medicine and apologized for both.
“Mom, bring whatever you need. This is your room.”
She looked around carefully.
“It’s nice.”
“It’s close to the bathroom.”
“That was thoughtful.”
“For the chemo.”
She nodded and, for once, simply said, “Thank you.”
Her first treatment lasted five hours. I sat beside her the entire time. When the nausea began, she squeezed my hand and apologized.
“Stop saying sorry,” I told her.
“I don’t know how.”
That answer hurt more than I expected.
The hardest part of those first treatments was the helplessness. I could bring tea, straighten a blanket, talk to nurses, keep track of medications, and hold her hand when the nausea came. I could not remove the cancer from her body. During the final hours of one infusion, she slept while I watched the medication drip through the line and thought about how much of her life I had never witnessed because she had always preferred to carry difficult things privately. Now she had no choice but to let me witness this. I decided that if being present was the only useful thing I could do, then I would be fully present.
Three weeks into treatment, I had to travel to Seattle for four days of business meetings arranged long before the diagnosis. I prepared everything before leaving. I wrote Mom’s medication schedule on cards, stocked the refrigerator with crackers, rice, broth, ginger tea, and applesauce, and texted Gabriel her appointment times.
“She takes the anti-nausea medication at eight in the morning and eight at night,” I reminded him.
“I know.”
“She will not ask you if she needs help. You have to check on her.”
“I’ll check on her.”
“Gabriel.”
“Sara, I’ve got it.”
I left because I believed him.
Every evening, Mom sent short texts.
“Fine. Eating a little.”
“Slept okay.”
“Took the medication.”
Nothing sounded alarming.
Seattle demanded more concentration than I wanted to give it. The clients had paid for my attention, so during meetings I forced myself to stay in the room mentally instead of constantly checking my phone. At night, however, I read Mom’s short messages several times. Her brevity reassured me because it sounded like her. She hated texting and never used five words when two would do. I also noticed that Gabriel rarely volunteered updates. When I asked, he said everything was fine. I accepted that because the alternative was imagining trouble from hundreds of miles away when I could do nothing about it.
On the fourth day, my final meeting ended four hours early. I changed my flight and decided to surprise them. I did not tell Gabriel I was returning.
I landed around seven that evening. While driving home, I was thinking about whether Mom needed more broth or ginger tea. Then I pulled into the driveway and noticed Gabriel’s brother Danny’s car outside.
I assumed he had stopped by.
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